I’m not sure when exactly I came across the fortune cookie, “Do it because you love it,” but I don’t think I’ve felt how necessary this quote is until recently. In the past few years since I’ve been thrown, head first, into post-grad life, I’ve come to put my happiness behind others and behind my work. I was constantly doing this just so I could get ahead at work or seem like I was more easy going. But there comes a point where you can’t do it anymore, and you have to be selfish. You have to think about yourself and your own happiness. It’s the one thing you can change about any situation.
This past spring, out of frustration at my job, I chose to work at a startup after work. I wanted to turn the negative thoughts I had about work into something more positive. The requirement was around 3-5 days of physical attendance after work and on weekends, unpaid. I’d go to work at 9am and then get home at 11 or 11:30pm each night from the startup. It was an intense and demanding experience, and I thought I was enjoying it. I enjoyed meeting new people in the startup scene, particularly in marketing. I felt mentored, and people genuinely liked to share their experiences with me. However, I just constantly felt burned out, and I never had time for my friends, my boyfriend or anything in life that made me happy. So I quit. I can’t say I regret it, and once I did quit, a huge weight fell off my shoulders.
Mental health is something that I’ve started to pay attention to and you should too! If something in your life isn’t making you happy, change it. You also shouldn’t feel obligated to stay at a job or be friends with people who don’t add value to your life. If something is negatively affecting you and causing you mental harm, it’s okay to take a step back and reevaluate.
As cliché as it sounds, I am going to do what I love. And what I love doing is sharing my experiences with others, whether it’s my travels or my eats. This isn’t the first blog I’ve created, and it may not even be my last, but I hope you’ll enjoy it as much as I’ve enjoyed creating it.